Why our thoughts are important to our true behavior
Parents, I stumbled across this quote today as a set of rules for our children. (See the quote on the side). It struck me that we often tell our children to believe in themselves and be the best that they can be. Who doesn’t want to raise confident and resilient children? But do we give the same dedication to our own thoughts and dreams as we try to instill in our children?
How many times did you tell your daughter “you can be anything you want to be” and then turn around and look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself “you’re not adequate or smart enough to follow your dreams.” Even though you might not tell your daughter your inner thoughts about yourself, you’re actions are speaking louder than words. More importantly, you are cheating her of getting to know the real you.
How do you consistently reach your full potential?
It has been studied by several psychologist worldwide that there is a direct correlation between our feelings, thoughts and actions. They each have their own theory but basically it boils down to this: the more you feel about something the more you think about it and your thoughts reflect your behavior. For example, you want to learn to draw and have always wanted to take an art class and then you think “I can’t draw and when creativity was passed out I was overlooked.” So you don’t fulfill the inner need to be creative because you just told yourself that you’re not capable.
What if you thought, “I can’t draw but I want to learn to draw” ? You just gave yourself permission to fulfill the need and your thoughts will then translate into a healthy action as you begin to learn how to draw. You will begin to tap into your creative potential because you’re thoughts did not paralyze you.
This sounds simple enough and maybe a bit of common sense. So if it is so simple, then why can’t we break our thoughts that keep us from being true to ourselves?
3 steps to empower your thoughts
- The first step is to believe you are a noble being created with many talents and gifts. With this empowerment you have the ability to take action toward uncovering your true potential. I tell my children they weren’t born with a book spelling out what their talents are (wouldn’t that be nice and make life so much easier). Rather, it’s a bit like mining for gems. It takes a lot of work and determination to find that hidden gem, shine it and buff it. Once you do it, the beauty is hard to ignore.
- The second step is to go beyond being a passive observer and translate thoughts into actions. Live with an active voice. Make a list or better draw what you want to achieve and notice opportunities that will allow you to reach your goals. The key is you must ACT on them.
- The third step is don’t allow your fears to dictate your thoughts and actions. Your fears can paralyze you when talk becomes a substitute for action. Instead take it one step at a time. Just start by saying “I will do it” or “I will learn.” I think you will be happily surprised with yourself.
Take the time to challenge your thoughts and assumptions. I know that you will be more fulfilled as you begin to unleash and discover your true self. This is the best gift to your children.
If you have any suggestions of how to put your thoughts into action, I would love to hear them. In the meantime, make this the best year ever and remember take ACTION!
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